Any time I hear something in the news about an altercation that got out of hand with an Officer I always sit back and wonder if I could have helped prevent it…
There is good and bad in every single profession. BUT did you know that stress over long periods of time can cause the calmest, happiest person you know to develop a short fuse and bursts of anger that they may not have any control over?
One minute you are perfectly fine . . .
One minute you are perfectly fine. Well, you appear fine to those around you but you are most likely struggling with sleep, exhausted, with brain fog, digestive issues and other signs of stress. But you are calmly going through your day and then someone asks you a question and it becomes too much for your brain and the anger instantly comes out.
I used to think I was crazy when my anger, of which we named Medusa, would rear her head.
I’d be totally fine in the kitchen getting the kids breakfast and then my husband (the nicest, sweetest man) would walk in the room and the rage would boil inside me. For no reason. I was short with my kids for asking me questions. All I wanted to do was go to a room by myself instead of sitting and having a conversation with anyone.
Then the next day I would be calm and happy again and wonder why I was so angry the day before.
Those who know me well have seen it.
When I tell the stories now many people don’t believe me because I was able to hide it from the outside world. But those who know me well have seen it.
I was lucky. I figured out why this was happening and fix it before I got to the point of not being able to hide it from the outside world.
So, when I hear the stories of an Officer or First Responder losing their cool, or of a superior who appears to always be angry at his team and not getting as much done as others feel he should be. . . the first thought in my mind is that I wonder if they are in burnout or overdrive.
Are they in burnout or overdrive?
Is their stress management system able to support them anymore?
Are they tired and wired at night, not able to fall asleep no matter how hard they try only to fall asleep and wake up a few hours later tossing and turning even though they are beyond exhausted?
Is their brain so foggy that they are struggling to have simple conversations and their reports and day to day duties take them so much time and focus that they can’t get it all done?
Are they more anxious or judgemental of others, quite often feeling that those others are not doing things as well as they could be.
Have they changed?
Were they once calm and happy and great at problem solving and getting things done, but now struggle with easy tasks and become short and angry?
And then I want to run over to that person and explain to them that it’s not their fault. That there is a scientific reason as to why their body is screaming at them for help.
That there is a way to start sleeping, have energy, calm the anger and your stomach and reverse all of the other stress symptoms which are simply signs that your stress management system needs support and changes.
There is a way . . .
Every day I help Officers and First Responders in my Shift Work Cure program to reverse their burnout without prescriptions and overwhelm. We begin with fixing their sleep issues and then moving onto the next step.
If you are ready to take back control of your life, enjoy family time and thrive in your career, reach out by emailing me at email@example.com.
Or join other Police Officers, First Responders and their families in my free supportive and informative 911 Stress Management Group.